Also, adopted. I know how incredibly lucky I am to have ended up with a family instead of in some shithole foster care home or hell, even a good one. Foster care isn't permanent. A lot of adopted kids have attachment disorders, too. Especially if they've been bounced around the system for quite a while. This comes with a wealth of emotional and behavioral issues. People don't think about these things. It's so easy to tell people to give up their babies for adoption because they'll be better off than if they never got the chance to be babies and...they're wrong. A lot of the time they're wrong. Not to mention, the grieving a woman goes through after adoption is SO MUCH MORE than what she goes through after an abortion (in most cases. I obv. can't speak for everyone).
You know what? Fuck these people. All of these people who think they get to decide what anyone can or can't do with their own bodies in their own best interest. And fuck them for thinking that adoption is ALWAYS an easier/healthier alternative for everyone involved.
And seriously fuck them even more for wanting to force women to go through something that is physically traumatic in a country where we're not even taken care of while going through the traumatic event. One of my fiance's idiot friends on fb started in with me about how our maternity health system is SO GOOD and that women aren't dying in childbirth anymore, especially not here. Like all people like that though, when confronted with facts she ran away and hid her face.
Sorry for all the rambling. I'm angry as hell about all of this and I know I'm practically incoherent because of it, but I hope something made some sense to someone.
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Date: 2010-03-23 08:38 pm (UTC)You know what? Fuck these people. All of these people who think they get to decide what anyone can or can't do with their own bodies in their own best interest. And fuck them for thinking that adoption is ALWAYS an easier/healthier alternative for everyone involved.
And seriously fuck them even more for wanting to force women to go through something that is physically traumatic in a country where we're not even taken care of while going through the traumatic event. One of my fiance's idiot friends on fb started in with me about how our maternity health system is SO GOOD and that women aren't dying in childbirth anymore, especially not here. Like all people like that though, when confronted with facts she ran away and hid her face.
Sorry for all the rambling. I'm angry as hell about all of this and I know I'm practically incoherent because of it, but I hope something made some sense to someone.