It's dirty work, but somebody's gotta do it.

So this is where there can be some problems among us poly folk, namly the different flavors of poly. I know several open relationships that opperate like this. "I know you need/want to do things with other people, I am ok with that, I really have no desire to meet, or know about the things or even who the other people are, in fact I will be mad if said person comes up and tries to talk to me." So there may be no douchebagery involved it could just be a different flavor. Just thought I'd throw that out there to be more complicated.