Dear "Skinny" Girls,
Jun. 16th, 2010 02:03 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
polimicksBecause when I said, "Although I think you'll want to reassess what your female character weighs. Supermodels may weigh 125 lbs at 5'8", but that isn't going to necessarily be healthy for most women." What I REALLY meant to say was "FUCK ALL YOU SKINNY BITCHEZ!!!!"
I try very hard to avoid bashing you guys. Having had a couple of friends myself who looked "unhealthily thin" while eating every calorie in a five mile radius due to hummingbird metabolisms, I understand that it sucks when people accuse you of shit like being anorexic.
Kind of like when people accuse fat people of eating all the time and never exercising.
Now, I didn't always try to avoid thin-bashing, and I'm sure if you look far enough back in my personal LJ, you'll find shit I said that I shouldn't have. And if I were a complete coward I'd delete those entries and try to pretend I never said it.*
But I'm not a complete coward, or I'm too lazy to go sifting back through more than ten years of entrIes. You decide.
That said, I would appreciate it, when I couch things about women's bodies in terms of "not necessarily" or "for many women" you didn't assume, "ZOMG! SHE'S BASHING ME BECAUSE SHE'S AN EVIL FAT BITCH AND SHE'S JEALOUS ELEVENTY THOUSAND PEE PANTS!!!!!!!!!"
When I say things like "for many women" and "not necessarily" what I am doing is saying that "Yes, many women in our society feel pressured to diet and engage in unhealthy eating and exercise practices in order to conform to an unrealistic beauty ideal, not all, but many."
And if I am not talking about you, for instance if you don't diet or exercise compulsively, then I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU!!!!
There's a brilliant quote I've heard repeated frequently, often at Pandagon.net: If it's not about you, it's not about you.
I would like to add: Quit trying to make it about you.
Although, I will say that seeing the way you guys react to what I've said makes me think that when you're fat-bashing and I say, "Hey, what the hell?" and get a round of, "Oh, we don't mean YOU!" that you actually very much DO mean me. This would explain why when I use qualifiers, you don't actually believe I mean them.
*Thin bashing seems to be a larval stage of body acceptance for fat women. After we decide that we're tired of killing ourselves, we develop a loathing for those who appear to still be engaging in what we see as harmful behavior. Most of us grow out of it. Not all.
I try very hard to avoid bashing you guys. Having had a couple of friends myself who looked "unhealthily thin" while eating every calorie in a five mile radius due to hummingbird metabolisms, I understand that it sucks when people accuse you of shit like being anorexic.
Kind of like when people accuse fat people of eating all the time and never exercising.
Now, I didn't always try to avoid thin-bashing, and I'm sure if you look far enough back in my personal LJ, you'll find shit I said that I shouldn't have. And if I were a complete coward I'd delete those entries and try to pretend I never said it.*
But I'm not a complete coward, or I'm too lazy to go sifting back through more than ten years of entrIes. You decide.
That said, I would appreciate it, when I couch things about women's bodies in terms of "not necessarily" or "for many women" you didn't assume, "ZOMG! SHE'S BASHING ME BECAUSE SHE'S AN EVIL FAT BITCH AND SHE'S JEALOUS ELEVENTY THOUSAND PEE PANTS!!!!!!!!!"
When I say things like "for many women" and "not necessarily" what I am doing is saying that "Yes, many women in our society feel pressured to diet and engage in unhealthy eating and exercise practices in order to conform to an unrealistic beauty ideal, not all, but many."
And if I am not talking about you, for instance if you don't diet or exercise compulsively, then I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU!!!!
There's a brilliant quote I've heard repeated frequently, often at Pandagon.net: If it's not about you, it's not about you.
I would like to add: Quit trying to make it about you.
Although, I will say that seeing the way you guys react to what I've said makes me think that when you're fat-bashing and I say, "Hey, what the hell?" and get a round of, "Oh, we don't mean YOU!" that you actually very much DO mean me. This would explain why when I use qualifiers, you don't actually believe I mean them.
*Thin bashing seems to be a larval stage of body acceptance for fat women. After we decide that we're tired of killing ourselves, we develop a loathing for those who appear to still be engaging in what we see as harmful behavior. Most of us grow out of it. Not all.
